That’s what I sign up for in this relationship, babe.
When I heard that, I screamed JUST WHAT THE HELL. In my mind anyway. I’ve never been in a relationship and this isn’t about me. I heard that from a local show and things went mad. In my mind, again, anyway.
Even though I have no experience, I don’t think a person should put it that way. Yes, romantic relationships are formed through agreement, but it’s not a contract like the ones we sign before employment. You don’t put out a paper to sign up. It’s not a combination of the things both of you want or not. There are no clauses to address specific matters. No place or hours included, no salary or expenses. No expiry date.
And this is where things went madder. As I go through that contract thing, I could honestly point out too many analogies. There’s the name of the parties, which of course are the ones involved in the relationship. The job title becomes the label for your partner. The start date is the day the two of you agreed to be in a relationship, it’s the anniversary. Salary could be the rewards you gain from each other, whatever that is. Holidays could be the hard times, when you don’t wanna see him/her or when you’re having a cool off. Expenses cover the gift you give, your treats for your gf/bf, or even the time you spend together. Assessments are those instances when you fight and point out each other’s fault and shortcomings. And the clauses become the conditions and the things the two of you wanna change to make the relationship work better and last longer.
For a moment, I didn’t know what to believe in, what side to take. Or if I even need to favor one. But then I have to clear my mind and arrive to a definite ground. Coz that’s just how I like things to be. I certainly consider the fact that a relationship and an employment contract have a lot of things in common, if you look at it like the way I did. Still, I firmly stand that relationships of any kind is not a contract. Never was and never will be.
P.S. Why? You ask. Relationships are built with love and trust. That speaks true for some of us. But I will not delve into that. For one could create a whole new blog talking about just love or trust.