Love Love Love

Strange

I’ve read a really interesting article last month and it was To Fall In Love With Anyone, Do This. You might be raising your eyebrows now just like what I did when I first read the title but that’s completely normal and valid, especially for those of us who believe that romantic love doesn’t work that way. But I read it anyway; you know how curiosity works, right?

The writer, Ms. Catron, shared her experience on trying Dr. Arthur Aron’s study which was to make two strangers fall in love with just a series of questions. Although they didn’t really follow the procedures for the experiment, Ms. Catron and her partner fell in love and according to her:

Love didn’t happen to us. We’re in love because we each made the choice to be.

I was hesitant at first and didn’t want to read the 36 questions, but I looked into it anyway. They were divided into three sets, each one designed to reveal more about the person than the previous. After answering everything, the strangers have to stare into each other’s eyes for four minutes. Yes, four-super-long-minutes-that-feels-like-a-year to people who have just met. You wouldn’t even do that to a close friend unless it’s a dare or you have a reward after.

However, the weird thing is, I want to try it. I wanna try it even though I still believe that romantic love isn’t something that comes out of an experiment. Because love is an unexplainable thing, one that you can’t reason out. But I’m allowing myself to consider a small probability of falling in love to a stranger through an experiment. I just need someone who is also open to the idea. And I don’t think I will meet him any time this year. Or ever.

The quote mentioned above had me asking, does love happen or do we choose it?

A question I have yet to figure out.

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On Choosing Happiness

Bitter

We can’t always get what we want. That’s what I thought of after reading the post Weight by AWMT, talking about how equally hard it is to gain weight as much as to lose some.

But this is not about weight.

I remember back in 2010, I wanted to be transferred in another class than the one I was placed in, for it was a new school year. So me and a couple others tried figuring out how we could move, but turns out it’s only possible if you have a valid reason, which I don’t. I can’t put there: because some of my friends are there together with almost all of my previous classmates. In the end I stayed in the class where I really belonged and chose to be happy.

Just recently I did something for the benefit of my blog (which made me skip this assignment) but to no avail, I was not able to do it properly. I did not choose to be happy… yet. But I’m getting by, and am looking for alternatives. Well, all I wanna do is to change the background image but I couldn’t find a shot that will look pleasing and at the same time will complement the colors of this theme. Yeah.

Anyway we can’t always choose to be happy, like we can’t always get what we want. It seems as if even our efforts are sometimes not enough to acquire what we truly desire. Maybe it’s not really for us, or the time is just not right. But everything happens for a reason, they say. And we could either wait for that reason to come or look for it ourselves.

What is that something you want that you didn’t get? And have you found the reason why? Are you happy or you chose to be? Let me hear about it!